Going through my Facebook history this morning and gushing over all the lovely photos and memories of my time on this day I came across some writing that I did and thought it was worth a share here. In 2016. My daughter was three, my boys were 10. Life is pretty much the same except now I have an eight-year-old daughter and almost 15-year-old boys. Now more than ever finding those moments where I can even find the boys is hard to come by and I try to capture everything I can. Before I know it they will be graduating from school and leaving for college. I hope you enjoy this Five years ago perspective.
June 24, 2016
I was reading an article on Huffington Post today about this celebrity who is tired of all the “perfect moment” photos that people share of their kids. How she doesn’t believe that the people posting those moments are being truthful about motherhood. It has stuck with me today. Not because I agree or disagree I just have a different view. We mothers and fathers work very hard for our families. Most of the time I am likely truly exhausted, my house is not perfectly in order and my to do list is so huge that I have to manage it by thinking of it as “how do you eat an elephant? one bite at a time.” I find ways to make it through the days while still enjoying all the moments that I can with my 3 kids. And my 3 kids – a lot of the time they can truly make me crazy. In fact right now the boys are banished to their room to watch cartoons on the ipad until bed because really we had had enough. the constant noise, the bickering, teasing, yelling, running was too much to handle for another minute. Eva spent an hour torturing us all with her 3 year old tantruming self. She’s now asleep.
In the middle of the chaos that is our family life I manage to capture moments that are special. Little snap shots of cute sweet loving happy joyous moments. Eventually it becomes an album and movie of joy. I never profess that my family life is easy or at all like those little snap shots. But tell me, do you really care to hear about the 17 tantrums Eva had today, including at the energy plex when she decided we were sitting at the wrong table? I don’t even want to hear about them. They come and go and I forget them as quick as they start. But I burn the special shots in my mind and they keep me going. and I share those moments not to say look at my perfect family, but look at this perfect moment in our day – they make me happy and I love to spread happy.
I don’t think it’s fair to judge those little snippets of perfection. The book ends of those moments might not be share worthy for us and its not because we want to hide it – they just don’t matter in the grand scheme of things. What matters to me is that sometimes for a few moments I get to see joy and beauty. And I feel blessed.
Then I finish my day with the kids, fall dead tired onto the couch with Rob to try and relax so we can do it all over again tomorrow.
That said – we are going to watch a grown up movie now. It was a busy week
As you can see from the final two photos it just doesn’t change they just get older. But I keep taking those moments and enjoying the silliness and the seriousness and the happiness and the candid moments and the posed moments and all of them in between. It doesn’t have to be real to you it’s just real to us